The five “love languages” outline ways we express and experience love: words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, receiving gifts, and physical touch (Chapman, 1995). As leaders, we can take reference and apply them at work to drive employee engagement.

Here are some examples of using these “love languages.”

Words of Affirmation

Provide specific compliments when your employee has done a good job. While face-to-face conversations are always the best, a quick appreciative email can go a long way too.

Acts of Service

Go beyond your required duties and offer to take some work off your employees’ plates, especially when you know they are having a particularly stressful week.

Quality Time

Set aside time for luncheons or one-on-one sessions with your employees. This sends a powerful message that you prioritise understanding your people despite your busy schedule.


Giving gifts can be as simple as buying back souvenirs from overseas to be distributed to your teammates. This shows that you are thinking of them even when you are away from office.


Warning! We recommend you err on the side of caution when using touch at work. Stick to ‘safer’ gestures like a simple pat on the back or a handshake after a job done well.

Everyone’s preferred love language is different. The best way to find out a person’s love language is to observe what they respond to and how they treat others – often, the type of appreciation that they give and want is the same.


The above excerpt is our compilation of ideas for business leaders in the areas of people management, leadership, and workplace happiness. 

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