It is tempting to blame others when things go wrong. While you may protect your self-esteem in the short term, but it will be costly in the long term. When the blame game becomes dysfunctional, it shuts down learning, leaves others feeling persecuted and undermines drive and productivity.

Below are three actionable steps you can take to reframe blame for positive purposes instead.

Learn from Mistakes

Rather than succumbing to the temptation of blaming, reap great benefits by striving to learn from the mistakes and missteps by:

  1. identifying the failure,
  2. opening analysing and discussing the failure, and
  3. experiment to discover solutions.

Confront the Real Possibilities of Failure

Paradoxically, by openly confronting the reality that you may fail, actually increases the chances that you will succeed. Be able to envision failure, take that into account and plan for strategies and alternatives.
Adopt a “The Buck Stops Here” Mindset

Even if, as is often the case, the responsibility for a problem actually lies somewhere else, in someone else’s hands, take the stand that you, as the leader have an accountability in whatever the matter. From that stand, see that you have a definitive say and responsibility in the matter.


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